Our New Normal

Hear me out on this one: for as awful as the current climate is, maybe it isn't a bad thing after all.


I have a picture of my grandma and grandpa from their wedding. This was a long time ago, and I know things have changed, but look at how things are changing right now. The picture is four (of my most favorite) people from growing up: Margaret and Joe with their people, Betty and Tom. They all wear elegant suits and have on modest flowers to commemorate the day. The smiles are real. The love is palpable.


So I get it. You spent hours and weeks and months planning this big day. I have had the same conversation, though, when those details go wrong (as they tend to do), or someone spills, or the cake goes missing, or your mom is just beside herself with emotion and takes it out on your friends:


Me: What's wrong?


Client: Well, X, Y, and Z.


Me: Okay, and what is the ultimate goal of the day?


Client: I need this, and that, and...


Me: As long as you get married today, the day is complete.


I am not trying to minimalize all the work (and money) that is put into a wedding. I am trying to refocus and find perspective.


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